Relationship Goals Reloaded Notes (Part 1) - Transformation Church

Mike Todd’s Introduction

The whole Relationship Goals series is less calculated than people may think
The original message for Relationship Goals was presented 993 days ago, August 7^th, 2017
The series went viral, and people from all walks of life and relationships heard the message and people started to share it
Transformation Church didn’t plan for it, but God wanted to get the message out. He wanted to encourage his people with it
To set precedence, Mike never expects God to do the same thing, the same way again, because He’s a sovereign God
Mike is not preaching today for the message to go viral; his assignment is for whoever is watching this right now, for us to receive everything God has put in Mike, for us
This is a word from God, that will help us to win in relationships
19.7 million people have watched Relationship Goals on Youtube; Mike cares more that people will apply the wisdom and the knowledge that comes from the messages, even if it’s only 1900 people
If only 1900 people apply it and start aiming at the goals God has for us in relationships, families will get better, children will be raised in environments that have a clear understanding on God’s word on relationships, and you will be better
It’s supposed to be a 4 week series, but that might be too short, so we may be in it longer so that we can be better positioned to win in relationships
Mike is officially an author! The Relationship Goals book has officially been released
The fact that Mike is an author and didn’t like to read shows God’s sense of humor; that God will use the foolish things to confine the wise
Thank you all for pre-ordering and supporting this manual – this book/manual is to help us win in relationships
Mike dedicated the first book to his beautiful wife Natalie
The other series and the book will be there to help you, but this series will be completely new, with completely new “bullets”, that’s why it’s “Reloaded”
When the first series happened, Mike didn’t know people were struggling so much, but he was seeing the results of it
He wrote this book because he didn’t have a manual growing up, despite having great Christian parents and growing up in a church environment. Nobody actually gave him plays on how to win in relationships, outside of abstaining from sex before marriage
Many of us are struggling in relationships and we don’t know what God said about relationships
There is power in the spoken word, but there is longevity in the written word
When the founding fathers wanted to set principles we would be guided by, they didn’t just say it, they wrote it down and it became the constitution
When Martin Luther King Jr. was inspired by the injustices that were happening all around him, he didn’t just say it to his friends, he wrote it down and they became famous speeches like, “I have a Dream”, with longevity, that will outlive all of us
When God wanted to get a message to all of creation, He didn’t just say it to a couple of people, He wrote it down, divinely inspired through men with every word being right where it needs to be, so that it could get to us, and now it has longevity when we read it as the Bible
The book is because this is not for likes, this is for longevity for us and for those that come after us; this is not an age thing, it’s changing the views of the elderly, don’t miss your blessing because you think you have already arrived
If we could ever start living by the principles of God, we could avoid a lot of problems in life

Additional Points Spoken During the Live Message:

We needed to take a moment to ask God to heal us from people. Hurt people, hurt people
We have to forgive
Right now, if you’ve been hurt by people, have been holding people, it’s time to let them go
We can’t have relationship goals if we’re still bound by the people that hurt us
Some of us need to forgive the person next to us, our parents
God wants to start this series out with healing, freedom, and deliverance
Deliver us from every hurt, chain, and word not aligned with the word of God
Today, freedom is coming to your life; freedom from people
Thank you Lord that you would free us and deliver us in this place
Our first relationship goal is to get right with God
Today, we trust you
Today, we can receive the word today
For every marriage, business partnership, where there’s been a wave, God, deliver us
We trust you God, believe you, and we thank you for delivering us, in Jesus name, Amen
We can never make a plan that doesn’t consult the Holy Spirit
Mike’s assignment is for every one on this stream to be helped in relationships
The aim of this series is to win in relationships
Relationship Goals, the book has been released officially as of today
This book will be your manual for how to win in relationships
This series will be different bullets (reloaded)
There is power in the spoken word; there is longevity in the written word
All of us can do better at relationships

Message Title: WARNING: Read The Manual Before You Touch The Product

1. The More Principles You Learn from the Word of God, the Less you Have to Pray About What to Do

Most of us have never read the manual for our car. When something goes wrong, most of us panic, we then find problems, then find a mechanic.

The mechanic doesn’t seem tense, worried, frustrated, or anything. He’s able to fix the problem.

That’s because the mechanic knows the principles of the car. You could save time and money if you knew the principles.

You’re paying so much in time, energy, hurt, frustration, and losing purpose and your life because you’re paying for something you don’t know the principles of.

Many of us are depleted and overdrawn in our accounts because we’re paying for not knowing the principles.

2. Principles Simplify Life

The cars most of us drive works on the principle of gasoline.

We don’t start praying holy, sanctified prayers and asking others to touch and agree when our car is on ‘E’.

When your car goes on ‘E’, you know what to do, because you understand the principle of gas.

You don’t have to pray about what you know/understand the principle of.

Instead, you find the nearest gas station, because you know the principles of how the car is supposed to function.

You know the way it’s supposed to be; similarly, your relationship should be this way. If you know the principles of relationships, you shouldn’t have to pray about it.

However, many of us have never learned the principles of relationships. We have never read the manual about relationships.

Our parents didn’t teach us, or didn’t know, pop culture acts like they know, but really don’t.

When we get taught by pop culture and people who didn’t make them, they can’t guarantee it, and ends in a lot of us being broken.

When you didn’t make a thing, you can’t guarantee it.

When something is wrong in our relationships, we should know what’s wrong, and what to do to fix it. The reason we can’t fix what’s broken is because we haven’t read the manual.

Mike is digging down on this in order to take us through the word and build value on why God is supposed to be the one to define our relationships, and why our relationship with God should be our ultimate relationship goal. When that’s successful, then the rest will be successful and able to win.

Instead, we try to o relationships without God, then ask Him to bless them.

3. Principles Protect Life

They don’t just simplify life, but protect life.

When you violate a principle, they destroy you. When you violate a principle, you violate yourself.

When you violate the speed limit (that principle), then get pulled over, and have to pay a ticket, you’re taking from yourself, not the police officer.

This is what happens when we violate the principles of God.

For example, when you have sex outside of marriage, you violate yourself. You develop a soul tie and attachment to somebody that was never supposed to experience all of your glory. He/she was never supposed to see that queen/king and that level of vulnerability. However, when you violate the principle, for the rest of your life, every time you see that person, or they walk in the room, you remember that violation of God’s principles. You know that there’s pictures of you floating around or inappropriate messages that you sent. God is saying don’t violate my principles. That’s because when you violate His principles, no matter how good it feels in the moment, you’re violating yourself.

Scripture:

Psalm 119:1-4 New International Version (NIV)

1 Blessed are those whose ways are blameless, who walk according to the law of the Lord.

2 Blessed are those who keep his statutes and seek him with all their heart—

3 they do no wrong, but follow his ways.

4 You have laid down precepts that are to be fully obeyed.

There is a level of life you can live when you don’t do anything wrong when you obey the instructions of the one who made life.

We keep going over/disregarding God’s principles, i.e., the precepts, the laws, the statutes, and it leads to the broken relationships we see.

When we never full obey God’s laws, statutes, and principles, we do a repetitive dance where we cross lines and keep coming back.

The word principle means a lot.

God is the originator/manufacturer of relationships.

4. Anything That Is Not a Principle is An Opinion

If you didn’t establish the law, it’s just your opinion. If you didn’t create it, it’s your opinion.

God established the laws.

He spoke the Word in the beginning. Furthermore, He was already in relationship, i.e., God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit – the Holy Trinity, three personalities in one. He was already doing it before He said let’s make man in our image.

He knows the blueprint on relationships.

Until we understand the principle of God knowing/that His principle is not an opinion, then we will allow pop-culture, blogs, family members, etc. to give opinions on the principles.

Until you learn God’s principles for relationship, you will aim at all the wrong things. Like Mike in the past, you can find yourself hurting people left and right, going to p*rnography for validation, and thinking if you just repented, it would somehow change your actions. The reality is that it may just put you in a better state of feeling/emotion to do it again.

The things you’re doing in your relationships, like sliding in DMs when you have a wife, searching for validation in people that could never give it to you, getting divorced 2 and 3 times and still looking for something only God can give, going from business partner to business partner, it’s not them, it’s you. There’s something that God wants to upgrade in you. There’s some principle He wants to teach you. There’s something that He wants to do in you.

Some of you are saying nobody knows that, but God knows, even if you don’t post, talk about it, or remain “private”. It’s still broken even if we don’t know it.

If you don’t allow God to set the principle for your relationship, and let your opinion die and submit to the one who created, then you will always end up without the result that you’re actually looking for.

That’s why the principle is first. When a king and queen have a child, they’re called princes/princesses because they’re first in line.

Satan is called darkness, in the Hebrew, it’s ignorance. He is the first one to rule by ignorance. Satan’s name is the prince of ignorance.

We have to learn the principles of God, because when we don’t know the principles of God about our relationships, singleness, marriage, then you are ignorant, and Satan’s name is the first, the prince of ignorance.

That means, the area of your life where you are most ignorant, Satan has the most rulership over you.

That’s why you can get it right in your business, but not in relationship, is because you haven’t learned anything. You haven’t gone back to the principles of God. You’re in the dark about relationships, and that’s been the enemy’s plan, for generation after generation. You don’t know if your daddy is your daddy, or if your uncle is your brother etc.

There’s so much crap around relationships that we just keep in the dark, so the enemy is able to win there because we are ignorant about God’s principles about relationships.

That’s why we have to learn and study the principles of relationship.

Dedicate yourself to becoming a scholar. Read more, even if you hate reading.

This principle of ignorance, allows the enemy to hold us where we don’t have any knowledge, like our relationships, our businesses, our speech etc.

Today, by the spirit of faith, somebody through this series, the Bible, the book, is going to get knowledge.

The word ‘knowledge’ in Hebrew, means light. So whenever knowledge comes in, light comes on. Wherever something is dark, and we don’t understand the principle, wherever light is, darkness cannot stay.

John 8:12 New Living Translation (NLT) – Jesus, the Light of the World – 12 Jesus spoke to the people once more and said, “I am the light of the world. If you follow me, you won’t have to walk in darkness, because you will have the light that leads to life.”

He is the knowledge we need. If you follow him, you won’t have to walk in darkness (ignorance), because you will have the light (knowledge) that leads to life.

Through this series, God wants to give us knowledge (light) to lead to the life we want to live, to #relationshipgoals, the business being successful, and the blessed life that God wants us to have. We cannot have God’s best in the dark.

Every secret, every lie, bring them out. God says, what’s done in the dark, has to come to light.

This series is about to expose some things and bring you to a place where you recognize that it doesn’t even make sense to live in ignorance anymore. God is coming to shed light.

God is coming to give us light. He is the light of the world.

Matthew takes it a step further and notes that we were made in Jesus’ image, so we are the light of the world too.

Matthew 5:14-16 New Living Translation (NLT) 14 “You are the light of the world—like a city on a hilltop that cannot be hidden. 15 No one lights a lamp and then puts it under a basket. Instead, a lamp is placed on a stand, where it gives light to everyone in the house. 16 In the same way, let your good deeds shine out for all to see, so that everyone will praise your heavenly Father.

God wants us to be so aware of His principles, that when we walk into a room and see a counterfeit, we can step in there and say, that ‘the light is here’, ‘you can’t fool me with that’, ‘I’m more valuable than that’. The light has shown up.

Declare that you hate ignorance. That’s where the enemy has been able to grip you. When you don’t want to read anything about budgeting, that’s how the enemy gets to play with your money. When you don’t want to read anything about forgiving, that’s where the enemy gets to control your heart. That’s why we had the moment at the beginning where we asked God to heal us from people. It was to shed some light on us. You can’t get the full word of what God wants to do in your life if you’re holding on and it’s hard ground. We need light; we need knowledge.

Mike feels like he was created to destroy darkness in our lives. This may be the first time all week that some of us have had light in our lives. You may have been listening to the news, constantly checking your bank account, looking at the death toll, but God says, to “hold on”, and to look at Him, the light of the world.

We need to declare that in the middle of the pandemic, we can light this whole thing up. We need to stop speaking doubt, and highlighting the facts, but instead speak faith and light it up. We can only light up a place where we have knowledge.

In the area of relationships, we must stop being ignorant. Psalm 119:1-4 has guarded Mike’s mind.

It literally says, the lawof the Lord, the statutes of the Lord, the ways of the Lord, the precepts of the Lord, the decrees of the Lord, the commandments of the Lord, the word of the Lord. All of these things mean principles.

In this one chapter, he lists different ways to say if you follow God’s principles, you can be successful in life in every area of your life.

When it comes to relationship goals, we have been aiming at the wrong thing. God says, “Could I give you my principles?” – The first intention He had for marriage and for relationship… the first intention.

When we get the principles of God, we are able to live the life that He created us for.

The Ten Commandments, all of them are principles we’re supposed to live our lives by (Appendix A).

The Bible is a simple book of principles. If you follow the principles, you will be successful, but if you violate them, you violate yourself.

If you want your relationships to work, you have to follow the principles of the manufacturer.

Culture, reality TV, people, have taught us to think that we know how it works. We think we’ve watched enough of ‘Bachelor’ to see what’s right and what’s wrong. Or, ‘Love and Hip Hop’ to see what’s wrong.

People teach you to think that you know enough.

Proverbs 14:12 New Living Translation (NLT) 12 There is a path before each person that seems right, but it ends in death.

Proverbs 16:7 New Living Translation (NLT) 7 When people’s lives please the Lord, even their enemies are at peace with them.

Some of the peace you need, can be found in some of the principles you keep.

You’ve been praying for peace, but don’t get it because you have no principles. You let anybody into your life because you have no standard, no principle. Then they break you, and you ask God to heal you, and God says, if you could just get a principle, I’d give you peace.

He says, even your enemies have to be okay with you when you live by the principles of God.

The keys to the principles of God, not culture, are the things we need to have in our life if we’re going to follow God’s principles.

5. Principles of the Creator

We need:

Knowledge: You need the light to come on; more knowledge in an area
Understanding: The bible says, in all you’re getting, get an understanding
Obedience: This is where it breaks down for most people. Plenty of us have knowledge and understanding, but stop at obedience. Somehow, we think that we know better on how to use the product we did not make. We think, somehow, because we “felt” something, we should step over the principles of God, to be able to satisfy our feeling. Nevertheless, when we do obey, that obedience goes to application.
Application: When you apply it, you will see success; you will win in relationships.
Success

The ignorance of these principles is a tragedy.

God sent Jesus, who is called “the Word”. When we lack instruction, He sent, “the Word”. He sent his Word for when we lack principles.

Hebrews 1:1-3 New International Version (NIV) God’s Final Word: His Son – 1 In the past God spoke to our ancestors through the prophets at many times and in various ways, 2 but in these last days he has spoken to us by his Son, whom he appointed heir of all things, and through whom also he made the universe. 3 The Son is the radiance of God’s glory and the exact representation of his being, sustaining all things by his powerful word. After he had provided purification for sins, he sat down at the right hand of the Majesty in heaven.

Right now God’s word is holding up everything. He spoke principles into place and the whole world works from them even today. For instance, the principle of gravity, time, and seasons, that he spoke one time. He doesn’t come back every day asking for gravity to return. He set a principle, and the Word of God stands forever and ever. The grass withers and the flower fades, but the Word of God stands forever.

Why won’t we listen to God about relationships when He’s the only one who understands the principles?

When you buy a computer, toaster, microwave, cell phone, you see a manual when you open the box. Do any of us read the manual completely? No. We live in, drive in, watch, etc. things we never read the manual for. Most of us are paying for things that we don’t get the full benefit of, because we don’t read the manual about what we’re getting/doing.

If you have a smart phone, you paid for probably 200-300 functions. You likely use 6 of them, i.e., text, call, take pictures, use social media, use calendar, and take notes. You literally paid the price for hundreds of functions and you use 6 of them. Why? It’s because you didn’t read the manual.

Could our marriage be better if we would read the manual?

Could our single season be better if we would read the manual?

Could a season of divorce be the season that God refines you so that you won’t bring the baggage of one season into the next?

If you would read the manual, you could get all of the benefits. Instead of benefiting, we’re suffering.

Most of us are in relationships with friends, marriages, business colleagues, but don’t get the full benefits because we don’t know how it actually works. The only way to find out how it actually works is by going to the manufacturer. It’s like going into marriage and not finding out what God wants in it.

If you get these principles throughout the entire series, we’ll hit every facet of your life. You’ll win in relationships.

God got us here to win in relationships. He wants you to win in relationships.

You can’t win if you don’t have a goal. You know the goal if you don’t know the intention. You can only get the intention from the manufacturer.

Let’s break down the word manufacturer:

Manu – to make
Manufacturer – the factory that it’s made in; that which makes the product
When you put “Manu” and “Al” together, it means– The mind of the maker; the thoughts of the maker, on paper
You read the ‘Manual’ because it’s the maker’s thoughts on paper
You read the Bible, because it’s our creator’s thoughts on paper; the manufacturer’s thoughts on paper

The manual is there because you do not know the maker’s mind about the product. You don’t just go into things, you get the maker’s mind. That’s why the Bible is a non-negotiable; it will save you scars, hurt, pain, and from hurting other people.

You may think you know the maker’s mind, but you don’t, unless you read the manual, i.e., the Bible. The makers mind on how to be married, be single, handle money.

We do ourselves a disservice by thinking so arrogantly by thinking that we know better than God.

Ignorance is about to break off of you.

It’s more advantageous to read the Bible than Instagram posts.

We’re suffering instead of benefiting because we don’t know the maker’s mind. We’re suffering because we haven’t read the manual.

If you have a Mercedes, you don’t go to Toyota to get it fixed. They don’t have genuine parts to get it fixed. This is why you don’t go to culture to get your marriage fixed when it’s broken.

They have fabricated things that almost looks like it fits, but they aren’t genuine. Have sex with everybody you want to, be able to be free, sow your wild oats, but that’s a manufacturer defaulted part. So when you do that outside of marriage, it comes with the consequences like soul ties, and it rips people away, and hurts children, and brings all of this stuff, and you show up to your wedding day, but it looks like everybody has picked off of you. You’re not the whole person you’re supposed to be. You’re both supposed to step into marriage whole.

The only reason we’re broken is because we aren’t getting the genuine parts from the actual manufacturer.

6. Warning: Read the Manual Before Touching the Product

Read the manual before you touch this product again. Read it before you get married, before you go another day marriage, before you sign divorce papers.

God says it’s not too late, even if you love them, but don’t like them.

At the moment you open the Word (the manual), and use resources like the book Mike wrote, to get the in mind of God, He says, the Bible is the only book that when you read it, it reads you. It’s alive and sharper than any two edged sword.

When you read the manual, you can have the guarantee of the manufacturer.

Too many of us are touching relationships, and it can’t be a goal, because we don’t even know what to aim at. God’s plan for you is that you win in relationships. God’s principles for you can be found in His manual.

You may have come today expecting to be told exactly what to do for a particular junction, for instance, a breakup. Before you do anything, go to the manual and see what God’s word says.

This principle can be applied to EVERY area of your life, not just your relationships. If you don’t see what the manufacturer says for every area, then you’re living below the benefit.

For the next 6-8 weeks, let’s make the word of God, the final authority on what relationships are supposed to be, what the goal is supposed to be. The only one that can speak to that is the one who made it.

People’s minds may be going right now because lights are coming on. It’s happening everywhere because you’ve been walking in darkness thinking that another blog can help you, or another thing could help you, but God already put all the principles you need for life and godliness in this love letter to you.

With the divorce rates for married couples, saved and unsaved being 50%, it means you have a 50% chance for it to end in divorce.

Divorce is the hardest ripping away of a relationship in humanity. When people are that intertwined and rip away, the only thing that happens is damage. Yes, you can survive divorce, and be restored after, but you don’t get to take away the consequences of it and the things that come out when you rip away from each other. That’s why God says in his word, that he hates divorce. He doesn’t hate the people.He hates that we were ignorant and that we didn’t do the things that we needed to do to make sure that’s what we needed to get into. He hates that we didn’t go to counseling after we got married, or we didn’t make the children a second priority to the priority with God and the priority with our spouse, so that we could learn how to live and show our kids how to walk. He is asking that we please do it His way, please read the manual.

Read the manual. Your relationship will only get better with knowledge, not time. Knowledge that comes from the word of God.

Faith comes by hearing. Hearing the word of God.

You want your relationship to win? You want to get better? You have relationship goals? Go to the manual. Find the manufacturers mind about relationships. Stop talking to your friend whose relationship doesn’t work. That’s ignorance; that’s darkness.

Illustration: when you open a cookbook and see a cake or good dish, on one side there’s a beautiful picture, and on the other side, there’s text. A lot of times, we want to just get the picture, but when we don’t follow the instructions (the maker’s mind), we get something we didn’t sign up for. Many of you are products of people who didn’t follow the instructions. Some of us have started at a disadvantage, e.g. broken homes, father not there, mom working all the time to be the mom and the dad, molested, raped, broken, and unable to be what we didn’t see. God is saying, “I hate that it happened to you, but you can be delivered from that”. God can give you light/knowledge that dispels the ignorance/darkness over your situation.

You are a child of God. Wherever the enemy comes in to get you with shame, grief and guilt, He says, any man that be in Christ, he is a new creation, the old has passed away, behold, I have made all things new (2 Corinthians 5:17). You will be ignorant of this if you don’t go to the manual. You are the righteousness of Christ, no matter how many people you slept with, took advantage of, if you were a player, or have been emotionally cheating on your spouse.

God says that at this moment, right now, go back to the manufacturer, get the manual, and see where His mind is on your relationship. Just like the cake, if it comes out salty and hard, you can’t blame the cake, the cake didn’t do it. We try to do that with marriage and relationships. We say things like, “marriages don’t work”. Just because your marriage is hard and salty, don’t blame marriage, you have to look at the ingredients. If you don’t have two single people that are going after God, and are really letting him lead and guide, then get into the marriage and it’s not working out, and if it becomes hard and salty, you get divorced.

There was a story in Matthew where religious leaders were trying to trap Jesus by asking if it was lawful for a man to get divorced from a woman for anything. At the time, you could get divorced from your wife if she sneezed the wrong way, or cooked and put hot sauce, etc. i.e., any reason.

Matthew 19:3-6 New Living Translation (NLT) – 3 Some Pharisees came and tried to trap him with this question: “Should a man be allowed to divorce his wife for just any reason?” 4 “Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning ‘God made them male and female.’[a]” 5 And he said, “‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’[b] 6 Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.”

Most of us are trying to figure out how not to get a divorce. Trying not to figure out how the relationship could end. Just trying not to make it good, but just how it doesn’t break.

Jesus comes to them and doesn’t even answer their question. They were asking him about the worst relationship breakup there could be, divorce, because it damages everyone involved.

Instead, he says, haven’t you read the Scriptures? That is to say, haven’t you looked in the manual? We’re not going to talk about divorce because it’s a symptom, it’s not the real problem. The divorce is the end result for people who didn’t consult the principles of God in the manual. He didn’t talk about divorce. Instead, He went back to the beginning, because when we start off with the right principles, in the right people, then we can get in the right relationships, and have the right marriages and businesses, and then Divorce is not even an option.

Symptoms are there to tell our body that something is wrong. The pain tells us that something is wrong. All the divorce that’s happening is telling us that as a society, we have gotten away from the manufacturers intent for relationships. God goes to the beginning.

Let’s go back to the beginning.

7. To Get the Manufacturers Guarantee in Relationships, You Must Read the Manual

You can ask about this book and that book, but the manual is not Relationship Goals the book. All that is, is principles from the manual made easy to get your appetite going towards it.

It’ll be an asset, but if you don’t have it, it’s all good, go to the Word of God. That’s where the information comes from.

You absolutely have to go to the word of God.

Remember, anything that is not a principle, is an opinion. We have been reading opinion books, blogs, listening to opinions of family members, and celebrities. All of these are opinions.

God needs you to come back to the principle. To get the manufacturer’s guarantee, you must read and study the manual.

Some manuals say, “Failure to read, may result in serious injury, or property damage” – this can explain what many of us are feeling right now. Injury of our hearts, purpose, minds, and destiny.

Some of us are going after purpose because of one thing that somebody said that we “loved” or “liked”; they killed purpose inside of us. They spoke death into us. We didn’t follow the principles, now we’re waiting for God to give us another word. God already called you great, called you good, and spoken His Word over you, but you have to go back and read the manual.

Analogy/Illustration: Today some people are feeling broken and lost, but if you look at a basketball (just like your life), in Mike’s hands, it’s worth about $15, in LeBron James’ hands, it’s worth about 40 million a year. A football, in Mike’s hands, it’s worth about $12, in the hands of Peyton Manning, it is worth over 80 million dollars over a career. For Mike, a golf club in his hands is worth about $50, but for Tiger Woods, he is the first billion dollar athlete. A stick in Mike’s hands may just stop an animal trying to attack his wife, but in the hands of Moses, it split seas; a slingshot in Mike’s hands is a child’s toy, but in the hands of King David, it can take down giants. Two nails in Mike’s hands, can maybe hang a couple of pictures, but two nails in the hands of our Savior, can save humanity, provide salvation, and give eternal life. Your relationship in your hands can continue to produce the same broken result over, and over, but your relationship in God’s hands, will get the manufacturers guarantee of winning in relationships.

Today, take your worry, pain, fear, frustration out of your hands, because in your hands, you’ll just get more of the same. Instead, cast your cares on the one who cares for you. If you give him your worry, your pain, the things in your job, relationship, your past, He’s the only one that can take your mess and make a message, take your hurt, and heal others, take your pieces, and make a masterpiece.

At the beginning of this series, can we just go back to the manufacturer, the one who created relationship before any of us were here, and get his mind?

In the name of Jesus, we declare that this is relationship surgery happening in people.

Prayer: Father, forgive us for putting other things as principle above you, as first above you. How to raise our kids, how to date, how to be single, how to be married, how to do business, forgive us Lord. Today, we repent, we turn back to you and your manual. We find the maker’s mind about relationships. Today God, I thank you, that this is the start of a revolution, and revelation, that will cause transformation in every family, home, and heart. I thank you, that today, we are surrendering ourselves to you, every marriage, we surrender our marriage to you, every single person, we surrender our singleness to you, and every divorced person, we are surrendering our lives to you. God I thank you that this week, when people crack open the manual, we thank you that you will jump off the pages. I thank you Father that your word will be alive, and that it will be sharper than any two edged sword. We thank you that the answers we’ve been looking for in man’s opinion will be solved in a moment when we find out the principle. God, change us from the inside out and let us know that our first relationship goal, the principle relationship goal, should be a relationship with You. Today, reorder our priorities; give us Your heart. We cast our cares on you, because you care for us. In Jesus name.

Altar Call: In that same posture and you’re here watching (or reading), the same two nails that were worthless in Mike’s hands, were put in Jesus’ hands, just for you. When He allowed them, He didn’t have to do it, but He did. When we were yet sinners – in the club, sleeping with everybody, addicted to p*rn, lying to authority, He said, you would need this, so hand over the nails and put them in Me. He chose to be the eternal sacrifice for every one of our mess ups. The greatest relationship goal you could ever have is a relationship with Jesus Christ. Some of you are thinking of old religion and concerned about the things you’re still doing or planning to do. God says He already knows that. God just wants your heart, you don’t have to get things together first or clean up first. This is the hospital for humanity. You can come in here bleeding, or broken; He is the healer, the great physician. He sent his word to heal your disease. He is the Lord, your Healer. He is available to you. If you’ve already accepted him, begin to pray. This is not an accident, this is an appointment. God designed this moment for you to find out His heart If you would just believe in Him (Romans 10:9), not change everything yet, people ask you to do that, religion asks you to do that, just give Him your heart, and He will help change your habits. If you would just believe He died for you, and rose again with all power, you will be saved. Turn, repent from the way that you’ve been doing it, and follow Him. God will give you the light that leads to life. Today that’s what God is offering to you. If that’s you, on the count of three, just slip your hand up in the air. This is the day of salvation, not tomorrow, it’s not promised to us. Right now, we have a moment to honor the principle of God by allowing Him into our heart. If that’s you, 1. You’re making the greatest decision you’ve ever made. 2. You are the one that God has been coming after and we’re proud of you. 3. Just lift that hand up right there. God sees you. It doesn’t matter if you’re in a room by yourself or with your family. You can put your hand down. Transformation church is a family so we pray together.

Let’s Pray Together: God, thank you for sending Jesus, just for me. Thank you for giving me the principle of grace, that it’s not by my works, but it’s by your works. Today, I receive you, change me, renew me, transform me, I’m yours, from this day forward, in Jesus name, I agree, Amen.

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